• Ron

My Son Wouldn't Listen...


"My dad would not help me."
My son Pastor Phil

My sermon notes as preached following the week after he preached on the subject... My Dad Would Not Help Me.


It is good to be with you today. I understand that Phil preached last week on the subject, “My Dad Wouldn’t Help Me.”


It’s true, I would not always come to his rescue or fix the problems he encountered whether he created them or not.


Having given thought to what he preached “My Dad Wouldn’t Help Me.”


I am going to preach today on: “My Son Wouldn’t Listen.”


My responding to this message is not to defend myself but to set the record straight. It is very scriptural. Jesus said, “You have heard it said, but I say unto you.”


The truth is there would have been fewer problems for Phil to deal with if he had listened to me in the first place. But of course who wants to say, “I told you so.”


I do agree that crisis and problems happen sometimes with no rhyme or reason, but we probably bring on more than we want to admit.


Either by: DOING WHAT I SHOULDN’T DO. (or) NOT DOING WHAT I SHOULD HAVE DONE.


I have not completely conquered or perfected this.


Now don’t get me wrong Philip was not a bad boy or difficult teenager. He was fairly normal. (note fairly)


But I truly am amazed at how much different our view or recollection of stories and family happenings were even to this day.


ARMY - I remember how proud his mother and I were when he sat us down and told us that he needed some more time for growth and maturity before he entered the ministry, so he thought it would be a good idea for him to join the Army. He was seeking our blessing and we were so proud of him.


Now on the other hand Phil only remembers his mother and I calling him in and setting him down and informing him that he could no longer live at home, and we thought the Army would be a good choice for a vocation until he knew fully what he wanted to do with his life.

Strangely, “He remember hearing what I didn’t remember saying, and I remember saying what he didn’t remember hearing.”


But the bottom line is that HEARING, LISTENING and OBEYING HAS both BENEFITS and CONSEQUENCES.


By the way, Phil did learn how to listen. THE LORD, THE ARMY AND I TAUGHT HIM. Because of it he is a good dad, husband and pastor today.


That’s what I want to talk about today. HEARING AND LISTENING.


DEFINITION:

To HEAR... (verb) to perceive with the ear a noise or sound made by someone or something.

To Listen... (verb) to take notice of and act on what someone says or is saying. - to make an effort to hear something; be alert and ready to hear.


WIFE:

My wife ask often ask me, “Did you hear me?” “Yes, meaning I heard a lot of loud noise.” “What did I say?” “I don’t know.” “Why?” “Well, I guess because I wasn’t listening.” She has to add, “THAT’S RIGHT!”


LET’S QUICKLY LOOK AT SEVERAL THINGS;


WHY LISTEN?

WHO TO LISTEN TO.

WHAT KEEPS ONE FROM LISTENING.

WHAT CAUSES ONE TO LISTEN.

HOW LISTENING BRINGS FAVOR, BLESSING, SUCCESS AND PROMOTION.


WHY LISTEN... Benefits and Consequences

Luke 8:18 (NLT) “So pay attention to how you hear. To those who listen to my teaching, more understanding will be given. But for those who are not listening, even what they think they understand will be taken away from them.”


One can learn by listening and getting understanding, gaining more insight, leading to wisdom.

One can also learn by experience. It is the education we receive through hard knocks, difficulty and pain.


There are probably some things you’re going to have to learn from experience. (experience can be an excellent teacher especially if you have a low pain threshold.)


WHO SHOULD I TO LISTEN TO...

People who have learned to listen... Primarily, people who listen to God or Godly instructions.

“BAD COMPANY CORRUPTS GOOD MORALS.” I Cor. 15:33


If you hang around with people who never listen, you will become a whiner, complainer, faultfinder, critical, fearful, suspicious, and jealous


Learn to Listen and hear the voice of God. (Samuel)Listen to Pastor - The one we call our spiritual authority.Listen to Parents- if you don’t listen don’t be surprised if your children do.Listen to godly friends, teachers, coaches, employers, guidance counselors.