How To Deal With Disappointment
Disappointment is a common experience in life. There are many things in life that disappoint us. Things we buy often disappoint us. Events we plan or attend can disappoint us. Even people we believe in disappoint us.
As humans we let people down and sometimes they let us down. People can be unreliable; they don’t seem to appreciate it when you’ve done something for them. They tell you one thing and then do another. They will just cop out and leave you hanging.
So to make it in life we’ve got to learn to deal with people. One of the secrets to success is learning how to deal with people who disappoint you.
If anybody were a pro at dealing with people it was Moses. Moses knew how to deal with disappointment. He was the most patient man around in his day. No man put up with more complaining. The favorite pastime of the Jews at this point in their life was complaining. That’s one of the reasons it took them 40 years to get across the wilderness. They kept complaining. They were very quick to criticize their leader. They would challenge his leadership, doubt his decisions, and criticize and question his motives. At one point they just said, “Moses, you just brought us out here in the desert to die.” Moses thought, “Is that what I get? Is that the kind of thanks I get?” The incident we’re going to look at first is a water problem. The Israelites had many water problems. The first problem they had was too much water at the Red Sea — How are we going to get across? The next water problem is that they didn’t have any water, and they were looking for water. Then the third problem here is they came to Marah where they found bitter water and they weren’t able to drink it.
From this incident in Moses’ life and his reaction, we see several lessons about disappointment. Exodus 15:22 “Then Moses led Israel from the Red Sea and they went into the desert of Shur. For three days they traveled into the desert without finding water. When they came to Marah they could not drink its water because it was bitter, that is why the place is called Marah.” The Hebrew word “Marah” is the same word we get the name “Mary” from. “Marah” means bitter. It was a difficult situation and from this, we can learn about disappointment.
1. THE GREATEST SUCCESSES IN LIFE ARE OFTEN FOLLOWED BY FAILURE. Count on it! The greatest successes in life are often followed by failure. Notice that only three days earlier they had a victory at the Red Sea. They were flying high. It was a spiritual mountaintop. In the first part of this chapter, they’re singing a song of praise, “God has delivered us. What a great day! We’re unbeatable! We’re invincible!” Three days later they’re grumbling, murmuring. Remember Jesus once said; each new day brings its own problems.
The fact is, after every mountaintop, there is always a valley. Always!
Later on, they’re entering the land of Canaan, their Promised Land. They first took over the largest key city in Canaan — Jericho. They marched around it and the walls fell down. It was a tremendous victory. They defeated the biggest enemy in the country. The very next week they go to Ai, which is a little dinky village and they were defeated. They got a little cocky, a little too confident.
That’s the fact of life: It’s the Ai’s that get us. The big crisis of life we know who to depend on. “God, I can’t do this. I need Your help. Please help me!” We depend on God. But on the little problems of life, the daily irritations, we get presumptuous, and we think, “I can handle this one, God.” It’s the Ai’s (small places and things) of life that get us down.
Have you just had a big success in your life? Watch out! You’re now going to be faced with a challenge. It’s true that the greatest successes in life are often followed by the possibility of failure. Why did God lead them to “Marah”, where it was bitter? v. 25 “Then the Lord made a decree and a law for them and there He tested them.” God’s led them to “Marah”, a bitter disappointment, to test their reaction. “Do they really trust Me?”
Notice it doesn’t say that about the Red Sea, that God tested them. He wasn’t testing them at the Red Sea. They didn’t have any faith. God just opened the waters on the basis of Moses’ faith. God’s character was revealed at the Red Sea. Man’s character was revealed at “Marah”. God’s character is revealed in the big incidents of life. Our character is revealed in the daily irritations, in the tight spots.
What does disappointment say about you? How do you handle it? How do you handle discouragement? How do you handle disappointment? The greatest successes in life are often followed by failure. Israel’s response in v. 24, “So the people grumbled against Moses saying, `What are we to drink?'” Typical response: complain, gripe, grumble, and criticize their leader. How about you and me?